TIE HoyParent-teacher meeting: can’t follow — but not going looks irresponsible
You think the meeting is for listening to the teacher report grades — actually the teacher is waiting for you to ask questions, not nod.
I can’t follow fast English — should I still go?
Yes. But not to listen — to ask.
Not keeping up with fast English is normal and teachers know it. But if you bring prepared questions, the teacher will slow down to answer you.
Write 2-3 questions beforehand. You don’t need to understand everything — you need to get your questions answered.
Do Western teachers expect parents to attend?
Yes. Attendance itself is feedback.
The teacher is not testing your English — they are confirming this family is engaged. Not attending = not interested. Attending and asking even one question = this parent cares.
What to do
Before the meeting, write 2-3 specific questions and bring them printed.
Bring
- Latest report
- 2-3 written questions
- Pen and paper or phone for notes
Steps
- Read the latest report. Mark comments or scores you don’t understand.
- Write 2-3 specific questions (not ‘how is my child’ but ‘what does Band C mean’).
- If you can’t follow the answer, ask the teacher to write it down or email you.
- Within 24 hours, send a thank-you email confirming what you understood.
Basis
UK international school parent-teacher meetings are two-way dialogues, not one-way reports. Teachers expect parents to ask questions actively. Silence is read as ‘no concerns’, not ‘I don’t understand’.
More questions
Can I bring a translator or my child?
Yes. But be clear: the child is a student, not an interpreter.
If you need translation, tell the teacher beforehand — the school may provide support.